Let’s first unpack these feelings. When you are used to being in control of every aspect of your life, it becomes so unnerving when you are not able to do that. Change is a whole vibe in itself. It makes us uncomfortable, makes us feel vulnerable, and uncertain, to say the least. I moved almost a thousand miles away from Illinois to Charlotte North Carolina last year to start a new relationship. I had a new man, a new home a new job, looking for new friends, just looking for my new place in life. My anxiety level was so high that it took a toll on me mentally and physically. Everything changed at once and for a woman that is used to being the boss and in total control, this was devastating for me. So I made a decision to just stop. I just stopped. I stopped trying to be on top of everything, to be that woman that is always graceful and have that smile on my face, like everything is okay. I stopped and I got on my knees and I had that ugly cry. That ugly cry that makes your chest and your head hurt. I finally said the words that I would never thought I would hear come out of my mouth – God I relinquish all of my worries, all of my problems, all of my anxieties. God I give it all to you. I can’t do it anymore God; I can’t be the driver anymore. I’m not supposed to God, because I am supposed to look to you for strength and guidance. I too have boxes of my things that I have brought with me from Illinois that I had never unpacked. I took the next month and just unpacked a box a day. I purposely took my time because I went through everything and decided if I really needed it, and if it really had purpose in my life. I stopped trying to be perfect, as I recognize that it was going to be a difficult transition for me. Once I relinquished that need to control everything, a weight was lifted off of me. My advice would be to just stop. Stop trying to wear that smile and be perfect and to do everything at once. That’s just not going to work. Like you schedule meetings and appointments, schedule time to unpack five boxes and that’s it. The rest of the time relax, be a mom and a wife and your fabulous self. This is your forever home, so chile
what’s the big hurry? You have the power to make this part of your life pleasurable. Just do what you need to do in moderation. What you don’t get to one day, you’ll get to another day. Just breathe sis, it’s going to be okay!

Absolutely, I’m currently going through the same feelings with my business. I decided to let go and let God. I would gladly love to control every situation right now but I can not. Therefore I decided to sit in my backyard and look at the beautiful view. And tonight I will have a delicious drink and binge watch a good movie. I will let God do what he does behind the scene. He hasn’t failed me yet. So cheers to great things, a wonderful journey and a great life. Let’s focus on what’s ahead of us rather than what is really behind us. We are too Blessed to be stressed. Keep it pushing my sister let us enjoy the day!

I used to have a real bad problem with trying to control everything around me, including my partners in past relationships.
It was hard to delegate at work because it felt like the work wasn’t getting done the WAY I felt it should get done.
It took a while for me to let it go in relationships because I was so used to be lied to so I always felt I had to “catch something before it happened” so I wouldn’t be felt to seem crazy (which I never was bcuz my instincts were always on point in the end). I learned to allow people to do what they would rather do and to get the courage to leave when things no longer served me positively.
And as far as work, here’s the thing…the work was STILL getting done. THE PROCESS may have not been how i would have done it but the RESULTS were still what I desired.
I had to learn to let go of that deep need to be in control, do what I can in the best way I could, and let the cards fall where they may. The tension at work, and in future relationships, was no more. It’s a much better place for me today mentally.

I am becoming an “empty nester” and it’s beginning to take a toll. I find myself working more and not taking time for myself. I feel like I am in constant need to produce so that they won’t have to endure any difficulties. I hope that makes sense… I don’t know if I know me….and I don’t like that…

I am horrible at given up control. I feel if I do something will not get done. I learned the hard way, when I leave something up to someone else to handle, it doesn’t happen. I’m still trying to learn how to relinquish control to my husband..🤦🏾‍♀️