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I can certainly relate. I learned later in life that you can’t pour from an empty vessel. You have to eliminate the things that deplete your energy and focus on those things and people who add value to your life and not feel guilty about making those decisions.
Well said. We has women are powerful. We can carry a career, a family and any other thing that is thrown at us. But, we forget about ourselves. When God says that’s enough its hard to stop operating in our microwave mode. We have to learn, with a lot of prayer how to become the woman of God He called us to be. Be encouraged, through our strength we can learn how to love ourselves again.
Sweetie, first of all I’m 74 years old. I have been retired since 2012. I’m a Sagittarian and we love people but I have learned over the years not to be a people-pleaser. I know what I can do and I know what I will not do. I know how to say no! Learning to say no was hard in the beginning but at my age now it is so easy. They call me the caregiver because I seem to take care of everybody with the exception of myself. However, that has changed. I have become kind of selfish. Selfish in a way of thinking about myself first. If I’m tired in the morning I just roll back over and go back to sleep. If I don’t want to do anything then I don’t. It’s like they say when you get older you do what you want to do you say what you want to say. I’m thankful that I have God in my life and I don’t worry about anything. Coming up I started working at the age of 12 and continued to work and go to school and earn a degree and several certifications. Now is my time. I’ve raised three children, three grandchildren, was a caregiver to my sister who had dementia for 5 years. Take care of yourself no matter what. Doing all that you do can take a toll on your health if you’re not careful. So take time for yourself. And always remember if you’re not there someone else will be there to do it for you. When you’re not around someone will be found to be your substitute. So enjoy yourself.
I can definitely relate. I was delivered about 2 years ago when God told me I was not created to be a “people pleaser”. It’s been a real eye opener watching “the people” catch up with my newfound deliverance.
Hi Friend Girl , it’s okay to vent among other ICONIC sisters who share in your resilience and determination to remain steadfast and unmovable. There are several passages that are at the forefront of my mind: “I Can Do All Things through Christ who strengthen me” "Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the
power that works in us." " I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Sassy, He [God] gives us the desires of our heart. There is nothing impossible to those who Believe! Don’t allow this temporary setback or reset be a distraction to the plans in motion for continued Success!!!The words of Nehemiah " I won’t come down"…he was on a mission for rebuilding the Wall. Let the Spirit of God breathe on you and feel His presence. Love You, my sister. Remember, the ICONIC Woman you are and don’t lose faith. Much Success to you and your family. Prayers of agreement going up…R James rjgdine@gmail.com
Charis,
I just crossed the bridge of 61 this year. I have either been a people pleaser or I could give a damn my whole life. I decided this year I needed to find my place between that A-Z and eliminate all the other waste. I want to live my best life with those who reciprocate and don’t just withdraw from the well constantly. I don’t blame or get mad at others because I put myself in the situation. Now I choose my battles with my best interest and those of the people in my nucleus. I don’t take it personal when others don’t choose me or my way if it is not best for them because I am learning Still how to be the best me! Choose for the best me! Love and take care of the best me! I have been so enriched by this sisterhood by my outward appearance of course darling😀 but mainly from my inner self love. We can not receive what he has for us if we continue to hold on to; what was ours for the time needed! Continue to nourish and enrich your husband/children and get that house done! We have enough of a solid platform to stand on while you take a little time for yourself to complete getting your house in order so you will be ready to pour into the Global Unicorn Family that you envisioned and created. Sending much love and prayers🙏🏽 I am looking forward to your next chapter and working on my own. I am no longer solely a voyeur and admirer of others journey, I am making my own! Thank you and the Sassy Jones team for encouraging individual growth/sister love/motivation for living one’s best life🦄
I immediately started, praying because relatable!! literally I’m taking a mental day today. I’m over 50 and I feel broken. I minister through the hurt and pain, but God gives me the strength to bless those that need to be blessed because it’s not about me.
When I gave my life over to Christ. I gave it over to him totally so the “joy is” that someone else is getting touched. Someone else is getting delivered. Someone else is being encourage. Someone else is being lifted up when I heard you texting and typing I heard it I didn’t just feel it but I heard it so I’m praying for you to have strength and continue to do what you’re doing to God be the glory!
Praying for God to take you through and take you over all that you need to do, so that you are accomplished, because you are an encouragement. You are indeed and enlightenment, and I pray that he continues to empower you with grace with strength and with power. Be blessed my sister.
I definitely wear multiple hats these last 11 years.
My husband was in an accident back in 2012. Before that we was that couple with 2 young men. Trips, family activities the whole 9.
But now, my husband is disabled and I had to make sure our son’s didn’t miss out on the things there dad would have done. Although my husband can function, he’s just different now.
Fast forward to 2023, I quit my job to watch my grandkids because I just don’t trust people.
Keep in mind I am a person that always worked 2 jobs. Buying sassy jones is my outlet and reminder that I am still me.
Smooches
I really have been in serious denial about my own needs. Learning to pay attention, no being forced to pay attention to what I need is critical for my own survival. Watching the fruits of these efforts and then feasting on the harvest because baby I have starved for far too long!!!
Charis, I truly understand and relate so with you. I’m Soo tired of trying to make relationships work out when it’s Soo one-sided. And then trying to get people to like you, let you fit in is Soo exhausting. I know I’m way too old for the ish and a lot of social media contributes to the thoughts and feelings. Ive definitely been low-keyed and working on my own things that need straightening out.
But know you’re leadership is appreciated and where would a lot of us be without. Do what you need to do for YOU to fill your cup again. The Spirit is here to help you and the promise of his help and comfort is neverending. 💓💓💓